Understanding Behaviour as Communication: A Positive Perspective for Parents

In our ongoing efforts to support the well-being and development of our students, it's essential to reframe how we view behaviour. Instead of seeing behaviour as purely a set of problems or disruptions, consider it as a form of communication—a valuable expression of what a child might be feeling or needing.

Children, like adults, have their own ways of expressing themselves. When a child acts out or displays challenging behaviour, it often serves as a signal that they are trying to communicate something important. This could be a need for attention, a response to stress, or a sign of confusion. Understanding behaviour as communication helps us look beyond the surface and address the root causes rather than merely managing symptoms.

For instance, when a child struggles with aggression or withdrawal, it’s easy to label these actions as problematic. However, these behaviours may indicate underlying issues such as difficulty with social interactions, a sense of inadequacy, or even a response to changes at home or school. By viewing these behaviours as messages, we can better support our children in finding healthier ways to express their emotions and needs.

Here are some practical ways to apply this perspective at home:

1. Observe and Listen: Take note of when and where certain behaviours occur. Ask your child open-ended questions to understand their feelings and experiences. This can provide insights into what might be driving their behaviour.

2. Validate Feelings: Show empathy towards your child’s emotions. Acknowledge their feelings and let them know it’s okay to express themselves, even if their method of expression needs guidance.

3. Problem-Solve Together: Work with your child to identify solutions or coping strategies. Involving them in the process helps them feel heard and valued and promotes their ability to manage their emotions effectively.

4. Create a Supportive Environment: Foster a positive and secure home environment where your child feels safe to express themselves. Consistent routines, open communication, and positive reinforcement can make a significant difference.

By viewing behaviour as a form of communication, we can adopt a more compassionate and proactive approach. This perspective not only helps us address immediate issues but also builds a foundation for stronger, healthier interactions with our children. Let’s work together to interpret our children’s actions as meaningful expressions of their inner world and support them in developing more effective ways to communicate.

Thank you for your continued support and partnership in nurturing our students' growth.

Be kind to yourselves and those around you.

Mr Brendan Macaulay, Head of Student Support