All relationships go through challenging times where people let each other down. Learning to grow a relationship through these messy times is a real strength. In getting the best from a messy situation we often need to let go of our own needs and stand in the shoes of the other person to see a third way forward. We need to understand the deeply held values and beliefs that are influencing behaviour.
Letting go of hurts and forgiving other people is key to growing healthy relationships with others. These principles of understanding other people and learning to genuinely forgive are at the heart of the College’s restorative approach to resolving conflict and healthy living. Where we have the humility to understand that we are all messy and in need of God’s grace and forgiveness, we can soften our hearts and open our minds to alternative ways of being and seeing.