Friday 16th March is National Day of Action against Bullying and Violence: https://bullyingnoway.gov.au/NationalDay. Pacific Lutheran College aims to create a safe and supportive environment for students, staff and families. Sometimes, it can be difficult for parents or carers to know what to do when their child talks to them about issues that have occurred between students at school. As parents, you play an important role in assisting the College to prevent intimidating and mean behaviour occurring between students.
Identifying bullying is not always as easy. The Safe And Supportive School Communities (SSSC) Working Group describes bullying as the ongoing misuse of power involving patterns of harmful verbal, physical or social behaviour. Therefore, while issues or conflicts between students need to be addressed, they aren’t always considered as bullying.
The definition of bullying has three critical aspects:
- A repeated pattern;
- The misuse of power within relationships; and
- Behaviour that causes harm.
All three aspects need to be present in order for behaviour to be considered bullying.
What can parents do if their child tells them they think someone is bullying them?
- Listen carefully to what your child wants to say.
- Ask your child what they want to do and what they want you to do. With this in mind, be aware that the College cannot act to stop behaviours unless they are made aware that these behaviours are occurring.
- Discuss some sensible strategies to handle the problem with your child – retaliating and adding to the problem is not sensible.
- Contact the College.
At Pacific, addressing any problem between students’ focuses on a restorative approach, developing resilience in students and instilling a culture of respect amongst.
The restorative approach focuses on:
- What happened;
- Who’s been harmed; and
- What needs to happen to repair the harm.
In this approach to dealing with wrongdoing, the focus is on the harm that has been done and the obligation this brings on the part of those responsible to ‘right the wrong’ as much as possible. It’s an approach that seeks to develop in the wrongdoer an understanding of the breadth and depth of the harm their behaviour has caused to others so that they can best try to make amends to those most affected. In this way, it’s an educative approach. Through a restorative approach, conflict or wrongdoing is seen as causing harm to people and relationships and there is an obligation first to repair this harm in order for the people involved to move forward. It is a way of educating students towards self-regulated right behaviour that is respectful of all concerned. In particular, it puts the onus back on the wrongdoer to be truly accountable for their behaviour and to repair any harm caused to others. It also ensures that those who have been most affected by the wrongdoing have the opportunity to be involved in working out what has to happen in order to move forward.
More information about our restorative practices can be found at: https://www.pacificlutheran.qld.edu.au/pacific-education/wellbeing.
A major emphasis in the Prep – Year 5 You Can Do It program is developing Emotional Resilience in students. Emotional resilience is knowing how to stay calm and being able to stop yourself from getting extremely angry or worried when something ‘bad’ happens. This too is an important factor in overcoming issues of bullying.